I have much to be thankful for this year with the addition of a special little person to my family. One of the reasons I left my previous job at a bank was that I knew that one day I wanted to have children and I wanted to have flexibility in my work. Thinking that running my own business, I could choose to take fewer weddings when I needed to. I didn't realize at the time that when I have my own business, it would become another type of baby, that I feel constantly needs my attention to support and nurture it. I found myself responding to emails as soon as I got home from the hospital and meeting with clients about 2 months after. I was quite strict about not taking weddings too early on, with the first one 4 months after the baby was born. It was so hard to turn couples away, but nice being able to recommend my favourite fellow planners. I ended up planning as many weddings in 2013 as I did in 2012, just more condensed into the second half of the year.I feel truly blessed to have my baby (I am learning a whole new meaning of love) and my business (where I get to do the job I love). It is certainly a challenge trying to balance both, but I know how lucky I am to even have both. I was overwhelmed by the kindness that my clients have shown me during my pregnancy and after my baby was born. While pregnant, I was bustling one bride's gown and she kept trying to feed me the special plate of hors d'oeuvres we had provided for the bride and groom to eat before joining cocktail hour. Being a doctor, she couldn't help herself and had to look after other people. Making sure I was drinking enough water too. Breast feeding was something that was really important to me, and my clients were totally fine that I took 10 minutes away on wedding days to go and express during quiet moments. My amazing assistant Laureen kept an eye on things while I was gone. In one instance, she had to guard the door that I was behind as there was no lock and it was in eye sight of the dance floor!
The great thing about being in this industry is having friends who own very successful businesses and are mothers as well. Incredible people who inspire me and have provided so much advice along the way. Friends like Katie Fischer, Betsy Thorleifson, Sarah Brysk Cohen and Judy Pak. You are amazing!
Of course the biggest thanks goes to my husband, sisters and family. I am very much looking forward to Thanksgiving tomorrow with my NY family and all the good food. My favourite part of Thanksgiving is definitely the chinese dumplings that my in laws make. Not terribly traditional of me, but I have a dumpling problem. Baby will be enjoying a turkey, carrot and sweet potato stew I made with baked apples and cinnamon for dessert. Happy Thanksgiving to you all!
Photography by Judy Pak Photography